But this idea of parenting Groundhog Day has lingered for me.
And it just kills me.
Already I miss the newborn from a week ago. He's still in newborn diapers and tiny clothes but he's grown out of one outfit already and I miss him in it!
I think it's a rather cruel trick of God to give us these precious newborns and then take them away forever. And I feel that way about every age of my children. I miss toddler Silas. I miss four year old Mimi and four month old Mimi. I can't even remember newborn Jude (other than his unwanted haircut) but I want him and I want three year old Jude. I want them back. I want to have all of them at all of their ages.
I do my best to savor every age: it goes so fast, it goes too fast. Sleep deprivation makes me forget huge chunks and sometimes I find myself nearly weeping that my kids have gotten so big. I know it means that I'm doing my job correctly keeping them alive and learning, but I just want all of my babies back.
The coffers have been replenished a number of times and I do get to relive their stages, but it's not the same. Lou the tyrant is very similar to Mimi the toddler tyrant but I can't touch Mimi's perfect curls. I have only pictures and memories, and my sleep deprived memory is so fuzzy.
I have my blog and our history but I don't have their little smells and their little hands.
The big kids are still a little unit but they don't need me as much any more. I
've asked each of the children to stop growing. I push on their heads to keep them short. Nothing works.
I can appreciate this stage, of course. They're so helpful now and I love showing them what it was like when they were babies: all hands on deck, constant needs to be met, no sleep til Brooklyn.
I appreciate that they get to see full arms and that they can now help. They get to raise babies with me, the same way they were raised and teaching them the same lesson of selflessness that having babies requires.
Thankfully, this baby is easy. He's my easiest baby by a long shot, mostly because I finally got nursing down. It took me five kids to figure out how to get my body to cooperate but Philo has helped me master breastfeeding.
I appreciate the children's current phases: Mimi the tempestuous little mama, Jude the innocent bully big brother, Silas the emotional space cadet, Lou the sweet toddling destroyer who is learning to make us laugh intentionally.
(PS, I made this chandelier. Unrelated to this post I just needed to brag).
To combat the days that march steadily onward deeper into their childhoods I document with pictures and videos. The pictures go here, the 10 second videos I take with my iPhone I've been posting to a private YouTube channel for the past few years so I have them all in one place and watchable at any time.
As the old saying goes, "The days are long but the years are short." The children's stages are fleeting. But I still have some hope.
In my version of Heaven I get my babies back in all of their stages AND I get to keep having them indefinitely. I can't think of anything more heavenly. My babies for infinity.
Stay little, stay little, stay little.