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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on."
- Robert Frost -
We are going a mile a minute over here. We can’t stop. If we stop the scars they made might catch us. None of that. No, No, No. We'll run away, move on. Moving forward, onward. Too busy living and loving our days to be slowed down by deep hurt. Our days are filled – with smiles and with friends and with love and sometimes even with hope, but not that often. If we keep moving and living suddenly time will have passed and we will be alright again. Until then we will cheerfully SINK OUR TEETH INTO LIFE.- Robert Frost -
So this week we:
Went steampunk.
Spraypainted Jude’s purple bike baller gold.
Cuddled on the comfy chair.
Played dress-up in mama’s sparkly clothes.
Dropped THE papers at the Family Law Court. Again. We are four once more.
Played Dada, Mama, and Baby.
Rocked fashion couture
Got our necks kissed.
Drip painted.
Learned about Magna Tiles (need! wishlist!)
Went to a science craft fair.
Strolled around Yerba Buena Rooftop Gardens
Rode horses into the horizon.
Practiced our posing.
Built houses at the MOMA
Listened to art.
Learned how close to stand to a piece of digital art.
Just another week of living over here. Taking it all in stride. Licking our wounds. Retreating. Regrouping. Pushing through. All the euphemisms.
We are ok. We are living. Life goes on.
20 comments:
Loving the baller gold bike!
Sorry about the painful life twists.
Let's begin with the important things: Mimi's hair is so long and gorgeous and you are a great mom. Also, I love LOVE LOOOOOOOOOOVE the baller bike! Now onto the awkward. And let's just rip the bandaid right off shall we? It sucks, and I'm sorry. But it'll suck a bit less when you wake up tomorrow and everyday after that until it doesn't suck anymore. Just keep thinking about the extra closet space you have now, and how you can watch whatever tv you want all of them time, how you got out of Petaluma and all that entailed, and how now the only one who has to deal with his psycho ex is him - NOT YOU!!! Yay! I know those are all silly things, and obvi I am mostly kidding... because you can do it Nor! You are great and funny and gorgeous and cooler than I could ever aspire to be - and no matter what happens or who is or isn't around you will keep on being great, funny and gorgeous and cool!
Sorry about Four Once More. Bleh.
While remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience, there are huge obstacles. A family situation and custody arrangements can be untenable. It sucks for all but four once more works for you. And it's totally fine. -says the divorcee
In spite of everything, you still got it all going for you. Although I know it is exhausting all of you are healthy and the kids don't stop learning or doing fun stuff. You are a great mom, a great person, and are truly blessed with many talents and gifts that you can use to get you through these times. Imagine if you were boring?!
You have a lot of people who love you and your kids. You don't need people in your life who don't give a damn and just tire you down, drain you mentally, etc.
You will be just fine and so will the babies. Many kids grow up with way worse of a scenario and end up just fine. Look at me for instance :)
Love you Lenore. For what it's worth, I need you and want you in my life.
Love ya SW! I know it's a hard time, but you are awesome! I agree with Brownwyn. It does suck, but each day will get a little bit better. I will add to her list of things to look forward to; no more Mate, EVER! I'm still cleaning out N's gourd, and I think of you each time. lol
Ditto to what everyone above said, and I cannot stress how awesome the gold bike it. Watch out! People are going to want to steal it!!!
The past year has been rough. It all stinks and is annoying and frustrating and everything. I am glad you are doing what works for you and your kids. Obviously your kids are the center of your world, as they should be, so you are taking awesome care of them. I mean, just look at the cool stuff you do with them!!! Jealous!!!
He can do what's best for his kids and mend things with his ex. They need to work through there issues.
Glad you aren't entangled in that and just get to focus on being the best, most awesome you you can be! Plus Dville is THE place to live!!
I've been thinking about you. That is all. Anything else sounds trite. Maybe this still does sound trite, but it is true.
Magna Tiles - save up for them or ask for them as a gift! They are the best investment, I'm telling ya. Good for all ages, for years and years, never tire of them. Can you tell we love them??
So sorry to hear the news. Blended families almost never work. It's next to impossible just look at my awful family. You are doing what is best for you and your children and as difficult as it is you are doing the right thing. This too shall pass. Just ignore anyone who has anything negative to say. Those people aren't worth your energy. No men are worth crying over and the men are won't make you cry. We're always here for you!
Frosty was indeed right... it does go on (even when we wish it wouldnt). You have trod a hard road this past year, I hope the next year is so much better for you.
Dang it! I'm so sorry that it is going to be official. I was so hoping a different kind of post was in your future and that he had come to his senses. You are amazing! But... you can do hard things right?! You've proven that time and again.
Oh and I agree about the magnet tiles and pieces. We LOVE those. Sadly they are quite pricey. If you find a deal, please share the details with us.
Best to you!!! MWAH!
So sorry to hear about this. I don't know you but I love your blog! I've been a long time reader. You'll be ok. You are strong, I can tell.
Well, bummer. Some Guy lost out big time. I love how you mother. Your kids are as beautiful as their mom, and as resilient and exciting. Love to you!
I don't envy God. I'm not sure how he does it. I would just fill your life with joy, success, perfection and lots of pink and unicorns. :) Not sure why we walk the paths that we do, but I do have faith that it is all for our good and profit. My only advice is to be grateful.
You are loved and admired. You are fabulous, smart, sexy and I've never seen anyone with such beautiful children. Your life is a gift.
Geez... you one tough, amazing and inspirational mamma! Cannot imagine how disapointing this must be for you... yet you are out and about and getting on with life. Love your blogging and looking forward to your journey from here.. x
if I were you I would rather be divorced twice than be associated with his exwife for the rest of your life. No one needs that kind of ugliness and manipulation in the name of "good parenting". They should reconcile for the sake of their kids. Here's her chance!! Do you think he will downgrade and get back together with her?
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-Lisa
I just read back through your blog. So basically by being awful to you and running you out of town his ex wife ruined two marriages. Wow. Why doesn't Some Guy get as far away from her as possible? He will never find anyone like you, Nor. You're worth it. He should have supported you and shielded you from her and all of the judgmental people up there.
Totally agree. He should just reconcile. For real. He chose her to begin with. He chose to cater to her while married to you. He needs to just suck it up and remarry her. That way they can be miserable together but at least their kids will have Mom and Dad in their home, and Mom and Dad can just get along for ten years. They were already together way longer before. He's not going to get hitched a third time. They need to stop being selfish and get back together for their kids' sake. You were very nice and considerate to let him go. Those two need each other and their kids need them back together.
So sorry Lenore. That sounds awful. Your strength and good cheer and willingness to be honest about life sometimes knocking you flat on your back are very admirable. Take care of yourself. Your kids are lucky and one day they will look back on these days with admiration and gratitude.
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