What happens when you belong to an organization that by belonging to it asserts your tendency toward belief that it is led by God, and then you have the audacity to not only assert your disbelief in it's divine leadership but also encourage and rally others into disbelief in an organized and public fashion?
You, my friend, have started a faction. Kate Kelly's mission to ordain women indicates that she does not believe in the fundamental tenants of the religion: that it is led by God. And if God says that men hold the priesthood, then that is what happens. As an LDS feminist I think calling Kate Kelly a "women's rights activist" is outrageous. The "right" she is arguing for is irrelevant; she could be lobbying for lowering the age to get a temple recommend or demanding that we all wear green on Thursdays and it would still be attempting to assert her personal revelation above the channels that are in place in this organization.
There is plenty of room for doubt. One might even oppose. But to organize a contrary group within the LDS religion is essentially saying, "I don't support this and I don't think God knows what He's doing." Even I, with my confusion about gay issues in the gospel, know enough to be aware that I don't know everything. If Kate Kelly loves this religion so much why fight against it's organization? Why skip a meeting called specifically to engage with you about your beliefs? It seems as though Kate's own agenda is far more important to her than her membership in the LDS church. And with that said, why not just quit? Or go start your own church where people can make up the rules as they go along? What type of person is she that she would feel the need to set herself up as the posterchild of supposed "oppression"?
The Mormon Moment may be over, and to that I say good. It's not a religion for the feignt of heart and we have lived through decades of bad press. We can handle it and we don't attempt to explain why God does what He does. The church doesn't excommunicate as punishment, they do it to relieve the individual of their responsibilities and free them from the promises they've made but are choosing not to keep. And of course, if Kate Kelly decides that she both believes in and supports the organization of the religion, she can try again. And again. And again. And we, even I, would have to accept her back into our congregation and forget her disobedient past.
One has to wonder what sort of experiences or mental state one would have to be in to essentially say "I'm smarter than the leaders of this church and God is making a huge mistake by not doing what I think is the right thing to do."
Ugh, the whole thing just smacks of pride and disrespect. You want to lead? Go find people who need your leadership. I'm cool with those ordained dudes who speak to God and I'm smart enough to know I'm not the smartest person in the room.